Newsletter | Overcoming Obstacles: Fear of Failure

October 30, 2017by Lisa Philp

We all long for success but we often have to struggle for it. And while we think we fear failure, or at least don’t want it around us — we all face it in one form or another every day. Everyone fails. But, failure is relative. Its measurement is subjective. Mostly it occurs in your mind. If you exchange “I failed” for “I learned what never to do again,” it’s a completely different mindset. The status of failure is up to you.

Over the years of my failures, I have developed a great way of looking at it (lots of practice). I learn from it, or I ignore it.

Thomas Edison – failed 6,000 times before the light bulb,

Mike Schmidt – third baseman for the Philadelphia Phillies, failed at the plate (at-bat) two out of three times for 20 years, and was inducted into baseball’s hall of fame as one of the greatest ball players of all time.

Failure actually only occurs when you decide to quit. You choose your results. Here are a few simple things you can do to avoid getting to the “quit” stage:

  • Look at failure as an event, not a person.
  • Look for the why, and find the solution (If you look at “no” hard enough, it will lead you to yes).
  • List possible opportunities.
  • Ask yourself what have I learned, and try again.
  • Don’t mope around with other failures — go find a successful person, and hang around him/her.
  • Here are a few complicated things you can do to avoid getting to the “I quit” stage:
  • Create a new environment.
  • Cultivate new associations.
  • Access new information.
  • Get a new mindset — create new background thoughts.

It’s always too soon to quit.

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Lisa Philp